Marriage: Let Peace Rule

Marital Peace8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.—Philippians 4:8-9

This is a verse of scripture I believe is so appropriate for Christians today. There are many things we see and hear that are designed to get us riled up. Whether we see it on television, hear it on the radio; or see it on the various forms of Social Media. The enemy of our souls wants to fill us with anger, hatred, frustration and despair.

Unfortunately, these are also found within the walls of our homes and within the sanctity of the marital relationship. What’s really sad about this is: we have become so numb to feeling this way that we think it is normal. But that is not the way it should be.

God has given us answers to facing the difficulties of life and they are found in the Bible. One way is to change the way we think. Our thinking is a prevailing source of both our joys and our sorrows. I know that may seem overly simplistic but the scriptures are full of both directives and examples of how a person’s way of thinking influences him or her.

We are the ‘captain’ of our ship when it comes to our thought-life. In other words, we are in control and we have the ability to choose to think good things or not. Regardless, of what is going on or what has happened on the outside; the way we think about things is totally our choice.

So, what does this have to do with marriages? EVERYTHING!

Some of our most epic battles happen within the marriage relationship. Whether it is shown outwardly or not, there is much contention in many marriages. For some, there is silent contempt. That is why, when the couple breaks up, people say: “they always seemed to be the nicest couple” or “they never argued”. The lack of the outward show of anger or frustration does not mean it is not there.

However, if we can only learn to work on and change the way we think about a thing and especially our spouses, we can see very real changes in our lives. Because changing our thoughts will change us on the inside; this will lead to inner-peace and ultimately more peace on the outside.

As the verse above suggests, when we think the thoughts of purity, love, truth, etc., we are actually calling the very presence of God into our midst. How different our lives would be if we, when facing marital conflict, would stop and begin to think of good—concerning our spouse? What if we would find something…anything…to compliment them on? Certainly, it would be difficult to be angry or frustrated while thinking of good things.

So, my friends, let us start practicing right now—think of something good concerning your spouse—do it on purpose. Practicing thinking good thoughts about our spouses and anything else will bring the Peace of God on the scene, which will benefit our situations greatly.

Let Peace Rule

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Sebastian is a Christian, Author and Church Leadership trainer. His ministry calling, love for God, and His people; has led him into ministry of all types for over thirty years. He and his wife enjoy helping people in their walk of faith and finding solutions to the struggles of life, especially in the area of healing and marriage. Faith1st Blog is designed to open and continue the discussion on the subject of biblical "faith" as a "living" element of the Christian life. - "the just shall live by faith" - Habakkuk 2:4; Romans 1:17; Galatians 3:11; Hebrews 10:38 (KJV).

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9 comments on “Marriage: Let Peace Rule
  1. Sigh…my heart is just so heavy where marriages are concerned especially Christian marriages. I keep saying if we are Christians and if what we say is true then we are to have the greatest marriages and people should look at us and want to know how we do it. What can the church do, is the church doing enough, why are so many Christian marriages failing? These questions eat at me daily and I am a loss for words. For one thing I believe the church has a duty to teach persons how to operate in marriage but someone it seems that many believe that because we are Christians we automatically know what to do and I realize that this is so far from the truth. Every church MUST have a concrete program where they teach couples how to cope is my humble opinion. Great post!

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    • Sebastian says:

      Thanks for this response…I feel your heart!
      I believe the problem lies in the fact that many “Christians” are not buying what they are selling. In other words, we talk, teach and preach about a God who can do anything; but we run everywhere else and believe everything else but God and His Word—this is a MAJOR part of the problem.
      Also, as you indicated, there must be a real emphasis on providing “working tools” to help people within the context of marriages. Thanks again…Blessings!

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      • Oh yes that is just it right there because if the God we serve or say we serve is so powerful then why are we living such defeated lives. Lord help us!

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      • Sebastian says:

        The “why” is religion…plain and simple! That is why we have a “form of godliness” with no example of real and lasting power!

        We make an attempt at serving God truly, but when the “tough times” come or the results we’re expecting doesn’t come soon enough…we lose heart and take the path of least resistance.

        There is an answer, it’s called sacrifice! We absolutely must sacrifice our carnal nature to truly put on the nature of Christ.

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  2. I absolutely love this!

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  3. kristiann1 says:


    Love ❤ Always and Shalom, YSIC \o/


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